"its not the process you use, it’s the person you are… its about being spiritual mature and biblically wise enough to make good solid decisions in reference to yourself and in reference to the person you are looking for or looking to. we are so desperate for processes. we want programs, we want some way that we can match ourselves and look through and make sure we do it. the bible doesn’t give us that. the bible says, you be who God wants you to be and when you are that, you will look for the right kind of person, but if you are not who you ought to be before the Lord in spiritual wisdom, in spiritual maturity, you’ll never look for the right person."

Rick Holland (A Roadmap for Righteous Relationship Part 1-Eyes Wide Open)